The other day, I asked this question on my private Facebook page:
Do you think it’s possible to live without regrets?
The answers ranged from an emphatic yes or no to philosophical or personal.
My friend, Bonnie Cehovet, said this: “At some point in our lives, most of us may have a regret or two, but we must learn from them, not allow them to take over our lives.”
Wise words.
Certainly, I have a few regrets of my own. They are mostly stupid things that messed up my life temporarily – or cruel things that caused harm to someone else. (The latter always bothers me more than anything I do to myself. I hate hurting anyone, ever.)
While I don’t sit around wallowing in the past, I do remember those incidents with great lucidity. It’s amazing how the pain from days gone by still has that sting when we recall those events.
But I’ve learned A LOT from those errors.
I’ve learned to think before I open up my mouth (and am learning to think before I type).
I’ve learned that it’s better to trust my instincts 100%, even if it makes other people uncomfortable or mad.
I’ve learned to be honest about my feelings but to do so with tact.
I’ve learned that a cruel joke leaves a scar.
I’ve learned not to be impulsive in love (but you can still be in-the-moment).
I’ve learned that boundaries are essential to my well-being.
I’ve learned to be way more careful about the company I keep.
I’ve learned that cats can and will break precious things (like my doll in the picture above.)
I’ve learned that other people needn’t color my experience nor affect my actions.
I’ve learned that boredom gets me in trouble (hence, I stay busy).
I’ve learned that other people’s drama is not any of my business.
I’ve learned that it’s okay to run with the pack from time to time but lone wolf mode suits my solitary nature better.
I’ve learned to say yes and to say no.
I’ve learned that loved ones need attention and I need my space (it’s a tricky balance that requires a lot of communication).
I’ve learned to love, better. To care more. To be more present.
And I’ll keep learning.
Because I don’t want a life that is dull, bland, or too cautious. Which means I may still make mistakes.
And that’s okay because I don’t regret my regrets.
That’s me and TaoZen getting ready to get our yoga on!
Other stuff:
I got a divorce years ago and can certainly see some of those issues in this post on the 11 be-all end-all marriage mistakes.
My buddy Paige Zaferiou of Paige Z’s Tarot and Tea is featured in this Nylon post on the absolutely enchanting witches of Instagram! Woo hoo!
I’ve been mentoring Paige since August of last year. She’s a delight. (PS I think mentoring is awesome!). Here’s an interesting take on modern mentorship.
Kid Rock wants to be able to use his “freedom of speech” to say “gay” as a slur. UGH. I am LOVING this piece by David Holmes at Esquire – An Open Letter to Kid Rock About the Word ‘Gay’.
Dealing with an online copycat? How about one that STEALS YOUR BIO and passes it off as their own? Crazy, right? It happened to Wokie Nwabueze and she wrote this wonderful post about it.
In the what the hell was she thinking files: here’s a Spanish actress faking her way to the top by Photoshop!
Karl Lagerfeld says he’s too famous to walk in the street. He also hates selfies so don’t bug him.
Does the thought of taxes make you want to hurl? Bri Saussy has the antidote with new new offering: Tax Fabulous.
B4-XVI before sixteen – bringing hip hop and medieval art together like a BO$$!
New from Joanna Powell Colbert: a daily Sacred Pause for the season of Spring, 30 Days of Persephone’s Return. Just in time for the wonderful weather that is creeping up over here!
Over on Betty Means Business, Hibiscus Moon shares her story. If you are a heart-centered mystical entrepreneur, you’ll love this one.
I adore these pics of Marilyn Manson with his father! Awww….
This should be interesting to watch and see what develops: people are moving into Detroit and they want to change it.
Oh Jared Leto! You ruined my whole fantasy. AWAY with you and your short hair!
In memory of Jared Leto’s flawless hair. RIP, buddy. Yes, I AM in mourning.
From Lisa Boswell: 10 Myths about Fortune Tellers Busted. Lisa takes on the common misconceptions and lays some truth on it!
I dig urban exploring. This is a must-see video of a man exploring abandoned homes in Europe. WOW.
And be sure to take a gander at this home built in the 50’s that was NEVER occupied. It has the original pink appliances with the manuals taped to them!
Musicians make up some of my biggest (but most delicious) mistakes. So this post on how to date people in bands – um, yes. Should be tattooed on my arm.
Do you struggle with your self-worth? Struggle no more. The good people at Amulet magazine have created Gold, a course to help you find your weight in gold. Say yes to this and say yes to YOU.
I am a total money nerd. I read books on money like people read gossip rags. This is on my wish list: Rich Bitch: A Simple 12-Step Plan for Getting Your Financial Life Together…Finally
My favorite money book of all time is: It’s Not About the Money: A Financial Game Plan for Staying Safe, Sane, and Calm in Any Economy
Also on my wish list: Goddesses Never Age: The Secret Prescription for Radiance, Vitality, and Well-Being
Paula’s Choice are my favorite skin care products. She just launched a new anti-aging lip gloss with SPF 40! Cannot wait for mine to arrive.
After using Covergirl foundation for a while, I switched to L’Oreal Paris True Match Super Blendable Makeup, Natural Beige, 1.0 Ounces
What I’m Grateful For:
Lessons well learned
Beautiful, grounded children who are making far less mistakes than I ever did
Honorable companions
Lint rollers
Getting above 30 degrees after weeks of bitter cold
A girl’s road trip tomorrow
Soundtrack for 3/7/15: “My Way” by Sid Vicious – this will be the leading song at my funeral (yes, I have a funeral song list and it ain’t somber)
Blessings!
Theresa
© Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady 2015
pictures from personal collection
I’m Theresa Reed (aka, The Tarot Lady). I’ve been a full-time tarot reader for 30+ years — which, in my industry, makes me pretty badass.
I’m definitely not your average Tarot expert — I drop the F-bomb, I quote rappers, and I’m obsessed with pop culture + reality TV. Folks come to me for straight-talk + tough-love — without the woo-woo fluff. 
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