The Hit List - Happily Ever After?

When people come to a tarot reading, they often want to know about love. Will I meet “the one?” Is he going to ask me to marry him? Will my ex come back? Are we “twin flames?”

They want to see the promise of “happily ever after” in the cards.

Many times the tarot does show a promising future – a loved one returns, a new flame catches fire, the ring arrives, the perfect wedding day….all of that. Life is complete and groovy once you have a partner, right? But what about after happily ever after?

We don’t always think about what might happen once you’ve snagged that relationship. Situations such as: the old problems that tore you apart in the first place aren’t resolved so you break up again. Or you marry the perfect person – but they get sick and now you’re a caretaker. You grow bored. Your partner decides they want to be single. In-laws stir up trouble. And so on…

There are no guarantees that a relationship will bring lasting happiness. Happily ever after is a fairytale. While fairytales often have lovely endings, they also have drama and monsters.

For example, my marriage is great, don’t think for one minute it has always been easy. We’ve had times when we’ve been broke AF and there has been illness. Through it all, we’ve stuck together. I think it’s commitment but also a bit of luck.

Never assume that your life will be perfect once “the one” comes along (psst…there are many ones). Do not think that life will be easy when you’re in a relationship. And please don’t consider for one moment that you need someone to have a great life (you don’t).

Life (and tarot) will never give you a guarantee of happiness. Neither will someone else. The only person responsible for that is YOU.

Live your best life now, partner or not. Be in the moment, this moment – and enjoy the hell out of it. Your happily ever after doesn’t depend on a future situation (or person) but on what you’re doing now.

Look at this little sweetie in our yard!

Other stuff:

Great post from Jake Register over at Cosmo: Oh, NBD, Mars in Scorpio Is Just Here to Help You Make Your Dreams Come True.

7 Winter Destinations to Book Right Now.

Whaaa? Kristofer Hivju says there’s a ‘Game of Thrones’ alternate ending we will never see.

Rebecca Gordon and other astrologers weigh-in: When Pluto Met Saturn: Astrologers on How Trump’s Impeachment Could End ‘Explosively.’

She’s Running: Cardi B Has a Very Important Question for Donald Trump.

I love Lisa Marie Basile. Check this post out: How I Got 2 Nonfiction Book Deals In 2 Years Without an Agent.

Over at Your Tango: How To Clean (& Shuffle) A Used Tarot Card Deck Of Energy.

Why Women Are Rejecting The Term “Anti-Aging.”

From Brown Girl Magazine: 8 Fun and Affordable Holiday Gifts That Won’t Break the Bank.

People Suspected of Witchcraft Are Still Being Persecuted and Killed.

I love Stacey Abrams: Stacey Abrams on: Public Education, Teachers, Medicaid, the Importance of Governors, and …Star Trek!

YUP: It’s Your Responsibility to Challenge Bigoted Relatives Over the Holidays.

Glad Wisconsin isn’t in the bottom: U.S. States Ranked by Their Food.

Mecca Woods gives the low-down on the glow-down: The Best Holiday Accessories For You, According To Astrology.

This month’s Talking Shop is all about the craft of becoming a better writer.

This infuriates me: A Transgender Woman Was Forced to Remove Her Makeup With Hand Sanitizer for a DMV Photo.

Luxury hoodies and unmissable bottoms: 10 looks that defined the decade.

Alexa Fischer joined me on Astrology Bytes to talk about New Moon Intentions.

Get it get it: Gala Darling’s The Bad Babe Guide to Manifesting.

This might be a good read: Girl On Fire: How to Choose Yourself, Burn the Rule Book, and Blaze Your Own Trail in Life and Business.

NEED: Thriving as an Empath: 365 Days of Self-Care for Sensitive People.

I love to bake: Pastry Love: A Baker’s Journal of Favorite Recipes.

Ooooh this looks great: Signature Dishes That Matter.

The Tarot Coloring Book is the fun, easy way to master the tarot card meanings! The perfect holiday gift for tarot lovers – and coloring fanatics!

Tarot For Troubled Times is a different tarot book. We’re focusing on shadow work, hard times, and activism. It’s a modern tarot manual for self-care and transformation.

Over the years, I’ve met so many people who are intimidated by astrology. That’s why I wrote Astrology for Real Life: A Workbook for Beginners (A No B.S. Guide for the Astro-Curious).

Events:

April 24-26, 2020: Readers Studio. I’m a main stage presenter at the annual Readers Studio Tarot Conference in New York, the biggest tarot conference in the world. Join me and other world-class instructors for a weekend of tarot goodness!

May 10-16, 2020: The Tuscany Tarot Intensive. Where: Italy! A full week of tarot immersion. The only live tarot class I plan on teaching next year. Spots are limited.

August 30, 2020: Brushes and Stars. Where: Oakland, California. A full-day of astrology and intuitive painting – and yummy food! Join me and Chris Zydel for a joyful, astrology-inspired intuitive painting experience.