The Hit List - Go where the love is

If you’ve tried your best but have gotten rejected, laughed at, or shamed, don’t despair. And please, don’t waste your time or good efforts ruminating.

Instead, go where the love is.

If you’ve begged or groveled for someone’s attention, stop that today. If they don’t want you, don’t be busy wanting that. Free yourself from needing anyone’s approval if they don’t want to give it.

Go where the love is.

If you’ve been “unfriended” “unfollowed” or “blocked”, stop obsessing over that right this minute. If they don’t want to hear what you have to say, why bother? They aren’t your tribe.

Go where the love is.

If your family of origin doesn’t “get” you, create a family that does. Invite people into your life who love you just as you are. No more wasted energy on people who don’t make you feel welcome.

Go where the love is.

If your circle of friends ices you out, ghost them. Find companions that want to be with you. This will liberate you.

Go where the love is.

If your boss walks all over you, look for something else. Seek work where you’ll be appreciated. Same rules apply if you’re self employed: if you reach out to an audience and they don’t want what you’re selling, find an audience that does.

Go where the love is.

When you put your energy towards love, you will thrive instead of just survive.

As the ever wise Nina Simone says:

“You’ve got to learn to leave the table
When love’s no longer being served”.”

Find work you love, spend your time with people you love (and who love you back), go to places where you are treated like the king or queen you are, and surround yourself with love.

And most of all, be love.

Other stuff:

Did you miss the GOP debate? Ice T tweeted it live and pretty much summed it up perfectly.

The GOP controlled House voted to defund Planned Parenthood.

Why friendship is so important – from Andrew Sullivan.

My newest obsession: Garance Doré.

Loving this Tarot in Poetry from Elle Nash.

How to love your work when you don’t love your work from the always lovely Alexandra Franzen.

If your boss was a cat, your office may look like this. (My cat is my boss and he does not wear a three piece suit.)

Wisdom from Cynthia Occelli: The truth about entitlement – life doesn’t owe you anything.

Does Yelp play games with your ratings if you don’t pay to advertise? Some restaurants think so.

Walking dead: zombie powder!

Kristin Diversi shares her story on how she ended an abusive relationship.

These hunting tourists won’t even show their faces because they are participating in a “driven hunt”. Read this post and you’ll understand why this practice is so shameful.

The Pope is dope: 5 more ways he’s awesome.

Whoops: couple adopts triplets and finds out they are having twins.

A blistering series on Johnson & Johnson – breaking the laws and ruining lives.

Pace and Kyeli Smith visited me a few weeks back. Listen in on their story of what we now call the “Honey Boo Boo Crack Hotel” and other adventures!

Hate technology but need a website? First Five Things Fantastic Folk will be opening their doors soon. They’re about to make it easy for you. Get on the list.

These acid attack victims are making bold statements with red lipstick.

A writer for the Chicago Sun Times says that sex workers cannot be raped. Seriously? Totally effed up.

I loved talking about tarot with Diana Dorell on the Dancing Goddess show! Listen in.

Passive income was a hot topic this week and there are a few smart people who are telling the truth that the dream vultures don’t want you to hear: check out posts from Paul Jarvis and Racheal Cook.

As I’m counting down the months (a little over six to go), I stay busy with posts about Game of Thrones like this one with 12 things I guess I needed to know.

This couple lives the Victorian life. For real. And it’s pretty damn cool!

I learned about chatelaines from that post above and I am now convinced that I need one.

Just ordered this book from Deborah Lipp: Tarot Interactions: Become More Intuitive, Psychic & Skilled at Reading Cards

On my wish list: Love Style Life by Garance Doré.

Other than my knife, this is my most used kitchen tool: Rachael Ray Tools Bench Scrape Shovel, Blue

Just grabbed these pan scrapers and they work great (or so resident dish-doer, my husband, says): Tovolo Nylon Owl Pan Scrapers – Set of 3

My new favorite candle: Method Scented Soy Candles, Wild Poppy, 5 Ounce

Note to self – do NOT keep these in the house: Hershey’s Caramels in Dark Chocolate Stand-Up Bag, 7.2 Ounces (Pack of 8)

What I’m Grateful For:

People who love me

Clients who love to work with me