Can someone be in love with two people at the same time?
Yes. Sometimes it’s a matter of playing the field and not being able to decide (the kid in the candy store). Other time, it’s the fear of making the wrong decision. And then there are the situations that are truly shady and hurtful.
Love can be complicated and the heart can lead even the most rational people into all kinds of crazy situations: an unappreciated (and bored) married woman seeks companionship outside her marriage, a guy in a new relationship is still texting (and having sex) with his ex, a soon-to-be-remarried woman pines for her first husband, a commitment-phobe bounces between two women and does nothing when they fight over him.
While soap opera antics may seem like a titillating, the truth is, it’s frustrating, heartbreaking, and a whole lotta unnecessary drama. Can tarot help you to make a choice when you are torn between two lovers and your heart is all over the place?
Yes and no.
It can be a tool for insight but you’re still going to have to be an adult and take responsibility. That means being honest with your partners – and yourself.
If you find yourself stuck in the middle between two not-so-obvious choices, this little tarot spread may help you start contemplating so that you can work towards a healthy and honest direction:
What you are receiving from partner one:
What you are receiving from partner two:
What do you need right now:
Let’s put this in action. Ben is in love with two women and has been unable to commit to either one. He’s constantly back and forth. Both women are aware of the other and although they act cool, they have both expressed a desire for monogamy.
What you are receiving from partner one: Queen of Cups – this card indicates that there is an emotional connection with this woman that Ben really loves – and needs. She understands him and they have a strong romantic bond.
What you are receiving from partner two: Queen of Swords – this suggests that this woman may be mentally exciting for Ben. He finds her to be a bit of a challenge and more mentally stimulating than the other partner.
What do you need right now: 8 of Cups – this card shows a person walking away from a group of cups. This says that Ben needs to explore if he is actually ready for a commitment. The truth of the matter is that he is still pretty young (29) and may not be done finding himself – or exploring what is out there. It’s important for him to be up front with both women – and for him not to promise what he is not prepared to deliver. Instead, working on his relationship with himself seems to be what is needed at this time.
Let’s do another one:
Jessa has been married to Phillip for six years. While she loves him, he is often away for weeks at a time for his work (he’s a trucker). She recently started a steamy relationship with a guy she met at work. She’s now freaking out because she has feelings for both.
What you are receiving from partner one: Three of Pentacles – her husband works very hard and provides well. He’s solid and they have been building a home together (they are actually renovating one in real life). Note that this card has a third person in it – that is a sign that this situation, although not bad, has a crack in it that someone can walk through.
What you are receiving from partner two: Five of Wands – challenge and competition. This relationship certainly is adding a lot of heat to her life. But it’s also stressing her out. Jessa is feeling weird about the work element – and about lying to her husband.
What do you need right now: The Fool – a fresh start. I’m not sure what that fresh start entails – Jessa will have to look within and ask herself what that means. It could mean coming clean with her husband and trying to reboot her relationship. It could mean leaving her marriage and starting a new chapter. For now, she may be wise to visit with a counselor to deal with the baggage she’s picked up from her situation so that she can begin to decide what direction is for her highest good – and the good of the two men in her life.
A few notes:
Some people are not able to be monogamous. If you are one of those, tis best to own that and not lead anyone on. If all parties know what they are getting into, everyone takes responsibility for their role in the situation. Honesty is always the best policy for commitment-phobes, playas, and the perpetually horny variety seekers.
Most tarot readers are not moralists, meaning they won’t judge you if you’re in a “situation.” But they will help you to find your truth in that situation so that you can make conscious non-harming decisions. (They will not help you to be a better cheater.)
If you do indeed find yourself in a romantic conundrum, rather than turning to tarot, it may be wiser to seek out the services of a relationship therapist. A good counselor will help you to uncover the why behind your dilemma (there is almost always a deeper reason). They will also aid you in finding a healthy way forward.
Blessings!
Theresa
© Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady 2014
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I’m Theresa Reed (aka, The Tarot Lady). I’ve been a full-time tarot reader for 30+ years — which, in my industry, makes me pretty badass.
I’m definitely not your average Tarot expert — I drop the F-bomb, I quote rappers, and I’m obsessed with pop culture + reality TV. Folks come to me for straight-talk + tough-love — without the woo-woo fluff. 
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