The Hit List - When they say

When they say you’re too curvy to wear that…wear it anyways.

When they say it can’t be done…do it.

When they say you are in the minority…lead.

When they say ladies don’t do that…laugh, laugh, laugh and do it with wild abandon.

When they say you should…ask them why.

When they say you’re too independent…you’re too busy and fierce to hear that.

When they say your time is running out…know that your time has just begun…now.

When they say you’re too old/young/loud/quiet/fiesty/stupid/smart/busty/flat/ambitious/hairy/fat/thin/girly/boyish etc., etc…be you, as is, no apologies.

When they say that you can’t possibly watch television and be “spiritual”…turn the volume way up and enjoy your damn show.

When they say that there is only one way…take an alternate route.

When they say this is good enough…breathe deeply.

When they say I am complete…believe them.

When they say I need to leave…let them.

When they say you’re done…take a bow and do it again.

When they say I’m sorry…listen.

When they say I love you…hold those words close to your heart.

TaoZen says a lot without saying a word.

Other stuff:

I am now obsessed with this Fox village in Japan. I’ve always wanted to go there and this gives me one more incentive.

Tarot grandmaster Christiana Gaudet has a new tarot training. Worth checking out.

Did you know Stanley Kubrick used to be a staff photographer at Look magazine back in the 40’s? Look at these cool photos he took of everyday life in New York – when he was 17!

Interesting read from Dame magazine: They are closing the abortion clinics in the name of God.

Loving this over at Little Red Tarot: Ten gorgeous tarot tattoos. My girl, Hilary Parry, is there!

Hilarious: the creepiest things you can do on Facebook.

Angelo Nasios contemplates tarot and fundamentalism over here.

Want to start a writing career? Lifehacker has a list of the most important skills you need to make that happen.

What ever happened to Tinsley Mortimer? You might not care but I wanted to know.

The CEO of Twitter: “We suck at dealing with abuse and it’s all my fault.”

Magic Mike XXL is coming to a theatre near you in July. Watch the trailer. OFTEN. It’s going to be one hot month, yo.

How cute is this? The “Hair Dad” of Facebook. Awwww!

All this talk of “authenticity”. What does that mean anyways? OH HAI KIKI has something to say about it.

What happens when Disney stars grow up? Some do porn, some do drugs. Whaaaa????

Dying to be free – a long post on addiction treatment. There are alternatives that are barely being tried.

More body shaming and mean people: Why people hate Tess Munster and (And other happy fat people).

This is beyond cute: a street busker meets a homeless cat and magic (and cuteness) happens.

I’ve had Lana Del Rey stuck in my head FOR DAYS. Here’s how to get rid of those ear worms that get stuck in your skull.

My teenage world has come to an end: Lip Smackers will be no more.

The lipstick colors that make your teeth look whiter. Hint: avoid orange.

Even though Lip Smackers have come to an end, these eos balms are an amazing (and grown up) alternative: eos Organic Smooth Sphere Lip Balm – Summer Fruit, Sweet Mint, Strawberry Sorbet, Passion Fruit, Honeysuckle Honeydew (5 Pack). I love ’em!

I’ve become a massive fan of Nivea’s new in-shower moisturizer. Smear it all over your body (avoid your feet), rinse off, and voila – you’re smooth and soft! My fave is this one: Nivea Body In-Shower Nourishing Body Lotion for Very Dry Skin, 13.5 Fluid Ounce.

On my wish list: The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help by Amanda Palmer.

Anne Lamott is an amazing writer. Her latest looks like a must-read: Small Victories: Spotting Improbable Moments of Grace.

On constant rotation around here: Ultraviolence by Lana Del Rey. Haunting, troubling, ethereal, beautiful.

What I’m Grateful For:

Longer days

Husbands who shovel

Hair ties that don’t rip out my hair

Choices

Adaptability

The patience that comes with age

Being able to talk to your loved ones and see their face no matter how far they are

A quiet night ahead after a busy day

Evil eye pendants

Soundtrack for 2/7/15: “I F*cked My Way Up To The Top” by Lana Del Rey. Shocking title, haunting singing from a woman that courts controversy but always looks fabulous while doing it.