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My son is a good man.

I’m not saying that just because I’m his mother – I’m saying it because it’s true.

I love to say he’s like a living Buddha because he’s got a pure, ethical heart. When I’m around him, I feel like I have to up my game, be a better person…behave. He’s that good.

He is the type of guy you can trust to do the right thing. Like recently, when he found himself in the company of an intoxicated young woman. She wanted him to come back to her place…and like any hot blooded young man on the prowl, he accepted the offer. But once they arrived at her place, he realized that she wasn’t just buzzed. She was really, REALLY drunk. As in practically passed-out, sloppy hammered.

He declined her romantic overtures because he knew she was too impaired to make a good decision. Instead, he put her to bed fully dressed, tucked her in, left her a nice little note, and then let himself out after making sure her home was secured.

This is how a good, decent man behaves.

He doesn’t take advantage of anyone who is unable to make a rational decision. He knows better than that. He’s been well raised.

But what if? Yes, there is always the potential in any situation that anyone, even your child who you raised to be a good person, can make a terrible decision – and sometimes that means a criminal act. If that happens (god forbid let’s hope it never does), they need to pay the price, but also understand what they did and what lead them there so they can ensure that there are no future transgressions.

And that means parents cannot make excuses nor dismiss or diminish the heinous actions of a loved one. Because if they minimize a bad thing and don’t hold the child responsible, they are sending the wrong message to the child – and that child ends up with a broken moral compass.

Which only leads to further problems down the road.

When your child does something terribly wrong, you will never stop loving your child. You will still want to offer your support and love in any way that you can because parental love is pretty unconditional. You can do that. In fact, you should.

But don’t make excuses for them. Don’t reduce their bad behavior to “20 minutes of action” and make it seem like NBD (no big deal). Don’t…do…that.

It’s your responsibility as a parent to show your kid the right way – even when they are adults. Which means teaching them to own up to what they did so they can heal – and so can the victim.

Be the example of a good person and your child, even if they’ve done something too-horrible-to-even-imagine, has a fighting chance of being a good person too.

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