9 “boring” things that my husband & I do to keep our marriage awesome.

I’ve been married for a long time.

My husband is my best friend, my partner, and (in my opinion) the sexiest man in Milwaukee. Maybe in the whole country.

We both have unconventional careers (me: Tarot reader, business mentor, and yoga teacher; him: musician-writer-artist-creative-virtuoso).

We don’t fight. Like ever. We love each other. We have fun together.

If our life was a TV sitcom or a reality show, it would be pretty dull (and probably get cancelled after one season) because horrible dramatic catastrophes just don’t happen in our world! Our marriage is satisfying and fun and it just… works.

How? Why? Are we magical marriage-unicorns?

Nope. We’re not.

But we do have a couple of (pretty basic, simple, boring) practices that keep our relationship solid.

Pretty much every day, we…

Have a planning meeting at Starbucks.

Eat dinner together

Take a walk under the moonlight

Say I love you

About once a week, we…

Have a date night.

Chill out with a favorite show that we can both enjoy (Game of Thrones season is our thang)

Discuss what’s happening with our money and budget (and refine plans as needed)

At least once a year, we…

Take a (real) vacation together.

Take separate vacations (this gives us precious “me time” which is vital for a relationship, in our opinions).

And… that’s pretty much it.

Building a successful, long-term relationship is a lot like building a business — it’s not rocket science, but it does require care, attention, solid communication skills, and advance planning to make time for what matters most.

If your relationship is feeling rocky, my advice is to get back to basics:

Chat daily.

Go on dates.

Close your laptop and take a freaking vacation once in a while.

Sometimes, it’s the most “boring” rituals that pave the way for deep satisfaction and fulfillment.

(My sexy husband, Terry, is nodding emphatically and officially approves this message.)

Blessings,

Theresa

PS. If you’re fascinated by how real-life couples make their relationships work — especially when one (or both) people are self employed or pursuing an unconventional, creative line of work — you might dig my latest e-book, Creative Coupling. Details are right here. Love rules.

@ Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady 2015

photo from personal collection